Yesterday I had an opportunity to preach at a couple of churches on the issue of same-sex attraction, where I shared my testimony and preached from Romans 1:18-32. Both audiences were very responsive and in the course of my talks to both fellowships I issued a challenge about the issue of Christian witness and same-sex attraction. In the current days in the West, which are getting increasingly darker as selfishness and self-gratification any-old-how are becoming normal, parents and friends of GBLT people are finding it increasingly hard to witness to their friends. Their gay children are exerting excessive emotional force on their parents to attend so-called “gay weddings” and to bless “gay family” arrangements, with no concern about how that impinges upon the consciences of their Christian parents. In times like these it is SO easy just to cave in and say homosexuality really is OK, that maybe God did make some people gay and that at the end of the day walking in sexual purity makes not one iota of difference to how God loves them.
However, I challenged my audiences with 3 terrifying, albeit sobering, reminders of what such a shift in thought would do, and I wanted to share them here:
1) Imagine if, after telling your gay friends/relatives that their “lifestyle” is OK, that they become a truly born-again Christian. They read their Bible with Spirit-lead eyes and see the truth of what God has said about homosexuality (Gen 2:18-25, Romans 1:18-32, etc). They ask you, “Why didn’t you tell me the truth and warn me that this was not OK?”
2) Imagine if, after telling your gay friends/relatives that their “lifestyle” is OK, you die and face God. He asks you why you compromised your witness and attended the “gay wedding” just to keep the peace. He asks why you didn’t stand firm and seek His strength and protection to resist. He asks you why you helped your friend/relative to not see the truth but instead end up in a dark, painful eternity without Christ? What would you say?
3) Imagine if, after telling your gay friends/relatives that their “lifestyle” is OK, your gay friend/relative faces God’s judgement. God asks the person why they didn’t turn to Christ and live for His glory in heterosexual marriage or faithful chastity? What if the gay person faced God and said, “Well, my Christian friends told me I was fine as I was, that you would never be angry or do anything like send me to hell for that. After all, I believed all the other doctrines of the Bible but just could not deny my sexual desires. Didn’t you make me that way? That’s what some of my Christian friends said?”
In saying all this I think it is so essential that Christians be ever so delicate and deliberate about their witness to GBLT (and also other people). What we say and don’t say is a matter of eternal life and death: heaven or hell. On this earth, in this life, it means the same thing (John 10:10). Jesus said that standing for truth will lead, in last days, to the division of households and if we’re not prepared to face that then are we truly fit for heaven? Sobering, yes, but well worth asking. It’s not only ourselves that we have to live with at the end of the day for how we have represented God to others.